Monday, April 27, 2009

Sorrow & Joy Part 1

So, where were we? (those three words look so much alike!) I'm addicted to food. I had measurements coming up. And SO MUCH has happened since then. Measurements went - surprisingly - well. I'd dropped on a couple key spots, and remained pretty steady on the rest, except maybe one or two. Anthony read the note about food addiction, and was very supportive.

And then, just over a week ago, the bottom fell out.

I had a session with Anthony a week ago last Friday (April 17)...it was a good session, and afterward we talked a bit. I went on home after, and went about my day. The next day we had a session scheduled at 2 pm, and I was thinking about going to church in the evening. Around 8:30 am, I received a text message from Anthony asking if we could move our session to 6 pm because he had something he needed to do. I asked why, and instead of giving me a reason, he told me that if I couldn't, he'd have to cancel. I asked him why he was making plans for something when we had already scheduled this session, and then he told me that going in for my session at 2 for an hour and leaving again was a lousy split of the day...so I asked him if it was that or if he really had something to do. He responded with "Here's what we're going to do. We're going to switch you to another trainer. Next Saturday is probably going to be my last day anyway."...

Words cannot convey the shock and panic and ANGER that descended upon me at that moment.

The rest of the day was more of the same. All his replies to my quesitons (all through text) were cryptic and could be taken several different ways and were never straight answers, and sometimes he just wouldn't answer at all. He said he was going to talk to Erin about taking me on, and would let me know how it went. The session ended up being cancelled btw, as he didn't want to do it at 2, and I wasn't changing the time for him. (He constantly did that to me...I put my foot down this time.) We had had 3 sessions scheduled that week - he cancelled two (one because he was sick.)

I calmed down some after a conversation with Renee, but my mind continued to race and my eyes just would not stay dry for long. Sunday wasn't much better, except that I went to church and got to hang out with Kevin most the day. Anthony didn't respond when I asked him if he'd talked to Erin. He was silent all day.

Monday morning, I woke up determined. I texted him "This situation gets resolved TODAY." And a few other words conveying how fed up I was. My plan was to go in immediately after work, to talk to him and Erin...and figure something out. At noon, I received a text from him: "I'm going in in a bit and talking to my manager. Today will be my last day. I've got bigger and better things to be concerned with." I texted him twice, no answer. I called twice, no answer. I was so confused, and concerned. This was such a radical change from the guy I talked to on Friday after our session. Anger turned to sorrow. It was a physical pain in my heart and stomach...I've not felt sorrow like that in a long, long time.

I went in to the gym immediately after work. Anthony was already gone. Erin was there, though...and she let me cry for a few minutes, and then we scheduled some sessions. 24hour Fitness is running this special - if you complete 20 training sessions between March 1 - April 30, they'll give you 10 free sessions. Considering a package of 10 sessions costs just under $600...this is an AMAZING deal. Because Anthony cancelled on me twice that previous week, I still needed 7 sessions by April 30. And it was already April 20. So Anthony's disappearing not only took my trainer from me, but also put me in jeopardy of losing those extra sessions.

I thank God for Erin's positive attitude. We scheduled every single one of those sessions. 7 sessions in 8 days. 2 back to back, making a 2 hour session just last Friday. But we're doing it. There are 2 more to go. :o) She was just as determined as I am to get those sessions.

I realize now that sticking with Anthony would have been a huge mistake. He's a good trainer for someone without a lot of weight to lose. I wasn't seeing results (not great ones anyway) with him, because he was...I dunno, maybe out of his depth? He knows so much about building muscle, and can get someone into that zone...seriously, you should see my biceps! :o) But he never had me doing core training...never had me doing half the stuff I've done with Erin in just a few sessions...and that's one of the main reasons I'm not further along than I am.

Working with Erin has been GREAT!

And that's where the joy comes in...

There's more to write, but I'm tired and need to get to bed. I'll write more tomorrow. I've learned some key things about myself during this thing....

BTW...I've not heard anything from Anthony since his text at noon last Monday. He just disappeared from my life. Without even saying goodbye...

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